I choose to call my self a “bonus” mom, rather than a “step”mom. This is a trend that I have noticed in online “mommy” communities and one that I enjoy seeing.
Personally, the word “step mom” brings to mind the evil characters from animated movies. The evil, wicked stepmothers that no one likes.
Is it any wonder that real life step moms are trying to find a way to escape the negative connotations attached to their role of loving and caring for their stepchildren? Of course not!
I was prompted to share my feelings on the topic after reading this article from Jessica. Here is an excerpt from her piece that I would like to share.
A bonus mom simply doesn’t exist. A Bonus Mom is an arrogant title that second and third and ninth wives give themselves so that they can pretend as if they are loved deeply and wholly by their new partner’s children. A Bonus Mom is a perky newlywed who thinks that her designer gown and Queen for a Day party endears her to the world. A Bonus Mom is an absurdity and any mother who has put in the work, who has sacrificed parts of her life with no regrets knows that a Bonus Mom is, quite frankly, an idiot and a narcissist.
To sum it up nicely, we have drastically different viewpoints of what it means to be a step mom, or bonus mom.
I began to wonder what the opinion of the masses is. So, what do you think?
Either way, the title I have given myself and my situation works for me and my family and I will forever be a Bonus Mom. No matter what title you give yourself, we all have a beautiful job- loving out bonus children unconditionally.