Am I Allowed to Celebrate Mother’s Day?

Posted on Aug 16 2013 - 12:20am by ADS

Last October, on the day that I married my Prince Charming, I became a Bonus Mother to the most beautiful, intelligent, and excitable nine year old girl. Though I’d been in her life for years, it was as if our family felt more complete than ever on that day.

Fast forward about seven months and to another wonderful weekend visit with our little one. It happened to be Mother’s Day Weekend. When that occurred to me I instantly had this weird feeling about myself. I started to wonder- Am I allowed to celebrate Mothers Day? For all intents and purposes, my daughter certainly didn’t land in my life the old fashion way. I  love her as though she is my own and I hoped that she looked at me as a mother-figure in her life..But would she acknowledge me in that way on that special day?

To my surprise and incredible delight, she did.

That morning before Mother’s Day, I heard the shuffling of things in her room so I opened her door to say good morning..

“Morning, Maddy!”
“Morning!..You can’t come in,  I am making you something for Mothers Day.”

I quietly left and shut the door, and went downstairs to find her dad.

“Maddy is making me something for Mother’s Day,” I said to him as tears filled my eyes and began to fall down my cheeks. I don’t think I could have cried happier tears. He knew how much that meant to me and let me know he had a gift for me as well.

There is no way to describe the emotions that flowed through me that Sunday, my First Mother’s Day as a Bonus Mom. As I would come to find out, the answer is a resounding YES! Yes, I am allowed to celebrate Mother’s Day and so is every other Bonus Mom out there.

My First Mothers Day card from my Bonus Daugher

My First Mothers Day card from my Bonus Daughter

Also, in case you weren’t aware (which I wasn’t until recently) There is a National Step-Mother’s Day. Stepmother’s Day was entered into the Congressional Record On September 13, 2000. Since then, Stepmothers day has been Celebrated on the Sunday after Mother’s Day.

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  1. Marybeth August 17, 2013 at 11:28 am - Reply

    Such a sweet card! I absolutely believe that mother’s day should be a day to also thank the step mamas! But it was kinda cool to learn about us having our own day on the calendar! Thanks for sharing!

    • ADS August 17, 2013 at 11:58 am - Reply

      Isn’t is precious? She made me the cutest necklace too! It was such an incredible day for me and the day that I truly learned that my SD saw me as a “mother figure” in her life. She has has a great BM that is her main caretaker so it truly surprised me and warmed my heart that she acknowledged me in her life in that way.

      Thank you for reading!

  2. Marybeth August 17, 2013 at 6:32 pm - Reply

    So precious! Those are the best gifts around! I know how amazing it feels to have your position validated and acknowledged by the step child. I am so happy you were able to enjoy Mother’s Day!

    • ADS August 18, 2013 at 12:07 pm - Reply

      Thank you! 🙂

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