Our Unconventional Journey to Parenthood

Long before my husband and I met, he became a Father to a beautiful little girl.

One the first times that we spent an evening together, when it was clear that we were going to be in a serious relationship, he revealed to me that he had had a vasectomy.

Let that sink in just a moment…

Though I was glad that he was honest enough to share this with me early on, I instantly felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. You see, I’ve always dreamed of being a mother.

I had so many questions about what this meant. Was it permanent? Could it be undone ? What if it didn’t work?  Wait….Did he even want to have any more children, ever? 

If you asked my dear husband yourself, he would tell you that he was young, and it was a decision he made hastily and not entirely on his own. He had no way of knowing what the future would hold and how his circumstances would change.

Over the course of our courtship and engagement, we had many conversations about what this all meant for us and our future. When we decided that we wanted to grow our blended family, the research began and continued for years.

And then finally, the appointment was made…

On August 29th, 2013 my husband and I will be taking a trip to Texas (we live in Virginia) to visit Dr. Loddie Roeder to have his vasectomy reversed. We have been counting down the days to this trip for quite some time.


This blog will be not only a documentation of my life as a Bonus Mom, but my journey towards becoming a Bio Mom and everything in between. I know there is an entire community of women just like me, and I hope to reach out to them and share my experiences with them and their families.


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